How to Change the Narrative of Your Life

It doesn’t matter what people say about you or to you, what matters is what you believe.  A lie has no power unless people believe it, and a narrative grows in power when people repeat it. Everyday we are in a battle, one that starts in our minds and manifests through our words. Thousands of negative thoughts are planted in us by media, our loved ones, our spiritual adversary (the devil) and even our selves. Eventually we accept the lies that we aren’t worthy, loved, or good enough. We frequently profess what we can’t do, what will never happen, and what is impossible. Our beliefs shape our words, and our words define our actions. Our words also solidify what we believe.

Singleness - How I’ve Learned to Enjoy it Instead of Endure It

Singleness is NOT something to be endured. But I know it feels like it sometimes. If you’re single, I’m right here with you. I haven’t been in a relationship in 6 years. I’ve gone on dates here and there, wasted time on some foolishness, but I’m still waiting to meet God’s best for me. I know what’s it like to feel like a second class citizen, to avoid social media on Valentine’s Day, and be less than happy when someone else gets engaged because it’s not me. It’s been a journey but the biggest lesson I’ve learned is this: Singleness is something to be enjoyed. This wait has been...

The Key to Being Intentional: Live With the End in Mind

The key to creating a life you love, accomplishing the right goals, and living out your purpose is simple: Be intentional. Typically, the reason we don’t reach our goals is not because we’re not capable, but because we’re not intentional. Living intentionally means doing things on purpose for a purpose. The desire to reach the end goal has to be greater than your feelings, your lack of motivation, any temporary inconvenience, and requires dying to your flesh. For Christians, living intentionally begins with

Let’s Talk About Fasting - It's Not What You Give Up, But You Gain

f you had the ability and power to break free from bondage, to see God do the miraculous in your bleak situation, or receive amazing revelation from God about your life, would you use it? God has given us this power through the gift of His Holy Spirit and gift of fasting. Although we’ve been given this gift, we don’t use it to it’s full ability, and some of us don’t use it at all. Maybe because we don’t understand it, or because it seems too hard. In Matthew 6 Jesus teaches His disciples about prayer and fasting and says to them,“When you fast…”. Did you catch that? He said when not if

When the Holidays Hurt Too Much

When you’re mourning the loss of a loved one, nursing a broken heart, or unable to be with your loved ones during the Holidays, it hurts even more. Scrolling on social media only adds salt to the wound, seeing everyone full of joy and surrounded by the people they love. What about the rest of us? How do we deal with the pain and loneliness we’re feeling? I remember my first Holiday away from my family. My friends had to work and my mom was in another state. I sat on the bathroom floor crying, feeling so alone.

3 Essential Keys to Resting in God and Preventing Spiritual Burnout

Are you worn out? Do you feel weighed down by everything you’re doing or trying to do? I was in the same position a few months ago, juggling so many things and trying my best to please God. It’s not that I was physically tired, more like emotionally and spiritually drained. I kept asking myself, “Why do I feel so tired?“. Then the Holy Spirit said to me, “You’re tired because you’re not resting.”

We all need rest. Without it, we’ll burn out. This principle is true spiritually just as much as it’s true physically. If you’re spiritually drained or overwhelmed it’s likely because you are not resting in God.

Overcoming the Fear of Surrendering EVERYTHING to God

ear can be defined as “an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat”. This is the kind of fear that keeps us from giving our all to God because we think doing so will threaten our ability to enjoy our life and be happy. Actually, that’s what sin does. “For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord” (Romans 6:23).

Fear says, “God isn’t able to meet THAT need in your life.”, “Don’t share your faith, you’ll be embarrassed when they reject you”, “If you continue being abstinent you’ll be single forever”,

Why You Don't Have to be Perfect To Please God.

I am my worst and toughest critic.  I can easily give grace to other people, but I’m terrible at giving it to myself. I expect perfection, not from others, but from myself.

My perfectionist nature has led me down a dangerous spiritual path.  Some time last year I realized I began to base my worth and righteousness on my good deeds. Every time I did something “for” God, I gave myself a pat on the back. Every time I fell short, I tore myself down.  My inner voice often sounded like:

Feeling Disconnected From God? Five Questions to Ask Yourself.

It’s a terrible feeling; to feel that you’re not progressing in your relationship with God. There have been times when I sought Him, but he felt far from me. I long to continuously grow in my relationship with God, but sometimes it’s like I hit a road block. I grow frustrated, with Him and myself. If you’ve felt this way too, know you’re not alone.

I don’t have a magic answer as to why or how you got here (only God knows - literally). The following are only a few possible reasons you may feel disconnected from God:

What Growing in Faith REALLY Looks like

Change isn't neat and pretty. Nope. Change can be messy.  As Christians, our desire should be to become more like Christ. Frankly, that requires A LOT of change. When I first started following Jesus I had no idea that progress meant things can look bad when they’re actually being worked of by God. It's like putting a piece of furniture together. At first it’s neatly in a box, but it can't be used that way. So you have to take out all the pieces, which makes a mess, and begin the process. You have to do it in a specific order or it won't work.